How can you be more honest about your relationship with time?

I’m invested in my first online writing course with renowned Denver writing, creativity coach and mentor Cynthia Morris.  Her business, Original Impulse helps writers just like me find their “writing juju”.  This is the first week of the course “Make Writing a Happy Habit” and I was struck today by Cynthia’s coaching question: “How can you be more honest about your relationship with time?”.  She asked us to list our five top priorities and denote how they take up our time every day (along with other things that take up time but aren’t top priorities).  Here’s a sneak peek as to how I answered this question:

” I think that I try to set too high of expectations for my time.  I also allow myself to get distracted easily by technology, animals, noises, the internet.  I think that if I scaled back what I expect of myself every day, then I would be able to feel more productive with my time.  This also goes the other way: if I don’t have a lot planned that day, I’d like to enjoy my free time instead of feel like I “should be doing something”, as commonly occurs.  I would describe my relationship with time as circumstantial.  I think it’s common to feel that time speeds up when I am enjoying it (ie: weekends), and it slows down on days where it feels like I am bogged down in work or when I am bored.  Unstructured time has felt exceptionally anxious at times in my life and it has typically been something that I avoid. “

I wanted to pose to you this same question.  In my work with people recovering from eating disorders such as anorexia, bulimia, or binge eating disorder, I often process with clients this very same issue:

  • how do you choose to spend your time?
  • how do you prioritize your time?  what are your top five priorities?
  • how do you manage unstructured time?
  • how to you cope when you feel as if you have no free time or time to accomplish goals?

Sometimes we uncover deeper roadblocks to scheduling time; perhaps over-scheduling one’s day can also be a way to avoid being alone with thoughts or emotions.  Often, we forget or neglect to schedule in time for daily self care. Don’t allow a day to go by without doing some form of self care, and make this a priority — a minimum of 15 minutes a day!  What do you do that gives you joy?

Signing up for this writing workshop was a form of self-care for me personally, as well as productive for my business and my writing goals.

I came across another great blog post about self care and self-love today.  Tara Sophia Mohr writes on her blog wise living about how to actually foster and develop self-love in tangible steps.  Sometimes this is easier said than done, as Tara writes: “How we feel about ourselves is like the color of our inner skies. If we could just change the color to a prettier one, we would.”  Check out her post to learn how to make self-love a daily practice in your life.

How can you be more honest about your relationship with time? And how can you approach that relationship to help you deepen self-love?  I’d love your comments and feedback!